Touching Lives: A Family Perspective! A sweet letter from a family member of a life touched which in turn made a difference in the lives of the family members. It takes so little to make a difference.

One of the greatest gifts I have received is letters from my friends describing how my story or my reaching out has touched their lives. It is such a blessing to read these. Many times we aren’t even aware of the difference we have made in someone’s life by just saying a kind word or reaching out to show we care. Sometimes the smallest and what may seem the most insignificant gesture can change a life.  We can make a difference one at a time.

I love the movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” with Jimmy Stewart as George Bailey. George is considering suicide and God sends Clarence, his guardian angel, to try and stop him. Things aren’t going well for Clarence because George is desperate and hopeless. When he makes the comment “It would have been better if I’d never been born” Clarence makes that happen and shows George what life would have been without him which ultimately shows the many lives he touched and how he made a difference in each one. Of course that is a movie but it has always touched me so deeply and it must have moved many more because it is shown each Christmas Eve on NBC. My kids will even sit down and watch it with me: )

When I made the decision to write a book I asked my friends, whose lives I know my story had an impact on,  to write a letter as a testimonial to be put in my book. Each one I asked gladly did it. This was so very touching to me. At the permission of many of these people I have included the letters in my blog because I think it is inspirational to read about the victories any other peoples' lives. I shared about Rebecca and Angela who each are now touching lives and bringing hope to the hopeless themselves.  We all are passing it on.

As I share my story and the very poor choices I made as well as the consequences I paid for those choices my hope is to reach someone before they make the same mistakes I did. My hope is for them to turn it around before they receive the legal ramifications that go hand and hand with drug addiction. There have been many success stories because the people I reached out to drew upon God and their strength and quit using before they got in trouble. I admire each one of them more than you could ever know. Obviously I didn’t have that strength, but it is what it is.

With that being said some of these people who turned their lives around before they got in trouble feel they need to be careful to protect their careers, families, and identities. The letter I am going to share today is from a sister of someone I reached out to. I really wanted a family perspective because addiction touches so many lives not just the user.  This is a letter that I am going to keep anonymous but I feel it is imperative to share because it shows there is always hope and sometimes the family members don’t have the power ,although they try so hard, to make a difference . Sometimes it takes an outsider not so close to the situation or who has struggled with the same issues to speak into that person’s life. Families don't need to carry burdens and feel responsible for the things out of their control.

Again this also shows how very little I did and what little it takes to touch a life. I was blown away. All I did was meet with this girl for coffee and share my pain, mistakes, and hope. It was an amazing encounter as I had one of those experiences where I felt the presence of the Holy Spirit physically. Then outside of Starbucks I grabbed her arms and prayed to our God for her to find freedom.  God was all over this situation because where she had lied about and denied drug use before, she was finally honest.  When I looked into  her eyes and asked her when the last time she used was, she bowed her head and said on the drive over.  Freedom comes with truth and I knew she was on the road to victory and freedom because she spoke in honesty and truth that day.

Today she is drug free and seeking God, living a life in the freedom and the restoration that HE provides.

John 8: ³² Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

The letter is below :))

To Whom it May Concern:

"Susan Deface Washington has a uniquely motivating testimony to the transforming power of God’s Love.  Growing up in Dallas in the 1970’s, I recall wanting to emulate my teenage sister and her friends.  Susan DeFace Washington, in particular, appeared to have it all.  She was beautiful, blond, and had a bubbly personality.  She was a wonderful gymnast, a high school cheerleader, and was always popular. It wasn’t until years later that I would become aware of the numerous family tragedies and personal struggles that plagued her over the years.  I remember observing vibrancy and promise of youth, robbed by the burden of an adulthood hindered by inadequate coping mechanisms.   Her story truly is one of Christ’s redemptive Grace and Mercy.   She is transformed, and now lives the abundant life God promised, while daily impacting lives for Christ.  I know that God is being glorified though Susan, as I and my entire family have been impacted first hand.

In the year 2000, my sister, also a wife, mother, and daughter, began a downward spiral into the world of addiction that left her destitute and homeless.  Our family tried on numerous occasions over a seven year period to shepherd her back.  All attempts failed.  All our family could do was pray, and after seven years, that began to feel futile.   Susan offered help.  She met with my sister, and was able to connect with her in that distant, lonely place.  She could reach my sister on a level the family could not. Because Susan loved and acted, my sister sought help.  Today my sister is alive, drug free, and home. What a wonderful example of Romans 8:28 is being displayed in Susan’s life.   Our family is so grateful and thankful for Susan’s influence in our lives.  I believe her message of God’s hope to a lost world is very timely.  Her life testimony is a light to the lost, and a ray of hope for the ones who love them."

2 Timothy 2: 23 But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife.

I applied biblical principles to a situation yesterday and although it was somewhat insignificant I believe it made a difference, at least it did in my life and the rest of my day. Now at one point I was not thinking in the biblical mode at all because the employee/owner at this business was so rude to me.

I had stopped in a little mailing store to mail a gift. When I walked in, the store was in disarray and I had to walk through a maze of stacked up boxes to find an employee. Sitting at a computer was a man looking at what seemed to be a map. Looking over his shoulder, seeming somewhat irritated by my interruption, he asked what I needed. I told him I wanted to mail a gift and I asked to make sure this was a place that mailed things because it wasn’t obvious, there were just huge boxes everywhere. He grunted yes that it was, I then politely asked if he sold cards (so many of these mail center stores have cards that I love). Again with a grumble he said “no” saying he could give me a piece of paper and lifted a torn piece of notebook paper. POLITELY still….. I said that was okay and looked to see if there was anything I could buy that would be appropriate to send with this gift. There was nothing, a few post it notes but it seemed as if his inventory was very low on everything except boxes.

Remembering I had some cards in my glove box (why is it called a glove box, I have never put gloves in there) I went to my car and got a card and wrote a message. Finished with all the preparation I was ready to mail my gift and thankfully found an envelope (it was the last one) that had bubble wrap in it. After sealing the envelope I told the man I was ready.

Annoyingly he pushed his chair away from his computer and stomped over taking the envelope from me to weigh it. He asked how I wanted to send it and I said I didn’t know so he proceeded to tell me the prices for 1st class, priority, etc. After listening I asked him what the difference was and with GREAT impatience he asked me if I had just heard him tell me the different prices. Beginning to lose my composure I had to swallow hard and pause before I spoke, I then told him I understood the difference in pricing but I wanted to know the different benefits in the various mailing classes. He shrugged and said priority might get there faster but he really didn’t know.

By this point I wanted to give him a friendly hand gesture but I stopped myself again, it was really hard because he was just so mean and treating me like I was stupid. Not sure what to do I went with priority and he rang me up. He forgot to charge me for my envelope so I reminded him and again he seemed irritated. I thought he might be thankful because it appeared his business was struggling and he needed every penny coming in since he had NO inventory only huge boxes that obviously weren’t selling. By this point I was shocked he was still in business at all with the lack of customer service. I was beginning to seethe inside and was about to tell him what I thought of him and his store. (When I am REALLY angry I have a gift, well it is really a curse, of being sarcastic and critical much like my father was)

But at that moment it was as if God whispered to me and said be kind you don’t know what he is going through, be kind even though he is being a jerk to you. (I really wanted to argue with God on this point and thought I could really plead my case but decided against it and chose to be obedient). So I swallowed my anger which was a hard lump to get down and paused again (it is good to pause when you are agitated or angry, HIS word instructs us in that way) James 1: 19 So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; 20 for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

After handing him my debit card and receiving my receipt I smiled at him GENUINELY and told him to have a wonderful evening.(somehow I was able to suppress all my built up sarcasm) Then I looked in his eyes and said “May God Bless You” and smiled again. His whole demeanor changed and with a warm smile he replied thank you and said “God Bless you too sweet girl “. I then turned and walked out of the store with a smile not only on my face but on my heart as well.

I walked in the Spirit yesterday although I really was tempted to walk in the flesh. When I left that store the joy of the Lord was within me and that felt wonderful. If I would have gone off on him I might have had some sort of temporary gratification feeling justified because he wasn’t treating me right but that would have faded and then I would have felt bad about the whole situation. This was just a minor part of my day but it was also very powerful. God reminded me of 2 Timothy 2:23-26 which I memorized years ago. His word is our sword and it is good to have it on our hearts so we can draw upon it whenever we need it.

2 Timothy 2 (New King James Version)

23 But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife. 24 And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, 25 in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, 26 and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will

Almost all negative behaviors and addictions are rooted in something.

Woke up this morning thinking and praying for Amanda , feeling a little discouraged that I didn’t make more of an impact but standing firm in my faith that seeds were planted and they just might not be mine to cultivate. As I prayed with her yesterday I told her that almost all negative behaviors and addictions are rooted in something.  In other words these things are not the problem but the result of a greater need or hurt in our lives.  Until the root is dealt with freedom will seem like a twisted cruel trick played on those who can’t really have it.

I know my addiction was a result of the pain and neglect that I experienced and never dealt with. It came from the guilt and shame I carried with me for so long. Honestly at times I am in awe that I did not succumb to it. God recently brought some healing and revelation about some of my pain. My memories are so few and far between of my younger years and most the memories that I do recall have something to do with death. I know how morbid that sounds but it seems as if I was surrounded by death all the time. The first death I remember was that of my grandmother on my mother’s side, she was the true matriarch of the family and I think both my mother and grandfather were devastated by her loss. I was six years old at the time and vaguely remember being at the hospital but I was too young to go into her room so I stood on the street with my father and waved to her from there, I can picture that in my mind. That is all I recall about her or her death and I’m not even sure if that is a real memory because my sister shared that with me.

 The next death I remember was more traumatic to me because I felt responsible in some way. I think I was in third or fourth grade and I had been to the dentist. I can still remember the old dentist chair and the pictures of clowns he had on his walls, those clowns would be significant in my later years. I can’t remember his name but it started with a B. I had to have some extensive work done and for some reason I remember I was having a tooth pulled but it was impacted and he could not get it after trying for a VERY LONG time (this experience is why I am scared of the dentist to this day) Finally that evening after being in his chair for hours I was sent to an oral surgeon who completely knocked me out and performed emergency surgery to extract the tooth.  It was quite traumatic to say the least for a young child. A week or so later I returned to Dr. B for a follow up to make sure I was healing properly. As I sat in the chair with the clowns on the wall watching me I was so scared and nervous ( I can still picture those clowns perfectly and in detail). Dr. B tried to calm me down understanding my fear was a result of my experience a week before. He looked at my incision and sent me on my way saying I was healing properly. Later I learned after I left the examination room he had a heart attack and died instantly, I was his last patient. I found out that evening and I believe on some level I blamed myself because I was so scared and nervous plus the week before was the awful experience for both of us because he was unable to pull my tooth.  I carried the guilt of this man’s death on my tiny shoulders and it just set the stage for me to feel guilty about the deaths that were about to besiege my family.

It would be the next year that David killed himself, 6 months later Norman ( my dad’s best friend) killed himself, about 8 years after that my mother’s death would happen and then in ’82 my grandfather’s suicide. Now I don’t believe I carried any guilt about David’s or Norman’s suicides although these deaths affected me tremendously but my mother’s death is a different story. I thought I killed her. I was scared that I killed her and didn’t remember it.   I was literally scared that I got up in my sleep and murdered her.  I was so scared about that, that I couldn’t even think about it.   It was after her death that the tormenting recurring nightmare with the clowns. In the nightmare mother and David were dressed as clowns (the clowns from the dentist office ) riding tricycles  taunting me and accusing me of killing her. They would chase me with evil smirks shouting at me as I ran down the hall trying to escape. It was the hall in my home on Van Pelt but in my dream it was endless and I would just run looking back terrified of what would happen if they caught me. I dreamed it every night for so long and would finally wake up in a cold sweat crying relieved for a moment that it was a dream but then the reality of being alone in that house would sink in and I would cry more until I gathered the strength to get up and go on with my day. It was exhausting. It was during this time that I wished I could go into a coma for awhile to escape my reality. I didn’t want to die, I just wanted to be able to rest. It was such a very dark time.

When I first got saved my mentor at the time would pray with me trying to bring forth healing. She told me that usually we can go back through prayer and revelation from the Holy Spirit and see where Satan planted the lie that we believed and how that lie grew and caused us so much pain.  He got me with the lie that I was responsible for the death of that dentist  when I was a child which made me accept the lies that I was responsible for my mother’s , sist The lie I believed as a very young child is that I was responsible for the death of my dentist. Once I accepted and believed that lie it was so much easier for him to plant the lies that I was responsible for the deaths of my family. That is the pain I carried for so very long and used drugs and alcohol to numb. But God has healed me completely and I know that I carried way too many burdens that were not mine to carry.

My hopes are that others can find the freedom I have found by dealing with the root of their pain and addictions. God wants us to have the freesome he so freely provides but we have to take action.

My dad, his sense of humor, and his dog Cocoa!

As I have said my relationship with my father was difficult to say the least. After David’s death he began to build up walls to protect his dying soul from any more pain and the construction of those walls were remoteness and withdrawal from the ones he loved the most. Six months after David killed himself my father’s best friend at the time committed suicide also and my world and my family literally disintegrated. My father continued to retreat further emotionally, my mother began to slowly commit suicide with the bottle, and I was just a little kid struggling with all of this and trying to make sense of what was happening.

Because of my father’s remoteness and withdrawal he was not very affectionate or loving. I do know he loved me but I think he hid behind those walls and limited his love for me so if anything happened it wouldn’t hurt so badly. I am not a therapist or counselor but I believe that is what happened.  The way he expressed his love was with money and buying me things. He bought me anything I wanted and I really liked that : ) but what I really needed was a hug every now and then and a kind word but sadly for both of us he was not capable of that.

When I think of my dad I think of his intelligence and humor. Right after his death I had MANY people tell me he was the smartest man they had ever known. As they said that all I could think was “Wow” because these were very successful people who I considered extremely intelligent. They also told me he was the funniest man they had ever known. He was a practical joker and still playing pranks even at the end of his life.

A month or two before he died he was in ICU at Baylor Garland with an infection throughout his body that had gone into his bloodstream. Doctors kept looking at me saying  “He is critically ill, this is very critical, and we don’t know if he will make it".  It was a very scary time and I was alone. After meeting with the doctors in the hall I entered his room worried he would die any moment. As I walked into his room in a protective gown he slowly looked up with great difficulty and whispered  “Who are you? “ Alarmed that he didn’t know me I said “Daddy it’s me, Susan. I'm your daughter!!!” and with a puzzled look on his face he kind of screamed “Who are you?” Tears started to form in my eyes because I thought his mind had gone and then he sheepishly grinned and said “I’m just messing with you , I know who you are , you’re Susan"  I then laughed so hard and he did too !! I loved that about my dad and I think I got some of his humor.  I think Kathey got his intelligence but I got his sense of humor and that makes me smile.

I wanted to give you a little background about my dad and share this one other story that I was reminded of when talking to a friend last night.  As I said my dad did not, could not, and would not show any type of affection. If I started to hug him he would stiffen and he never said I love you. He just couldn’t, he hid behind his walls. But he could show his pets love and lavish them with attention.  He had a dog named Cocoa that was a teacup poodle and he adored her. It was unbelievable the way he treated this dog. One time when I had come in from Amarillo to take my daughter Alexis to Scottish Rites hospital to evaluate her legs he got us a hotel room because he was worried Alexis, who was three, might hurt Cocoa. I could not believe it but that was my dad.

Cocoa went everywhere with him and rode in his lap when he drove. I think Cocoa even went to Willie’s off of East Grand where my dad went to drink each day. She had a place at the table when we visited him for Thanksgiving and Christmas. This little teacup poodle had the best of the best and you could see the love in my dad’s eyes as he cuddled and kissed her. Cocoa even became more important after Kathey died and brought my dad the comfort no one else could. It was Cocoa and vodka he reached out to in his grief. Then the unthinkable happened Cocoa got sick and died.

I think it was the most traumatic thing that happened in my dad’s life. I really mean that. He couldn’t even drive!! Someone had to go get him (he could drive when Kathey died). During this time I was not around much because I was on drugs but I remember crying for my dad when Cocoa died worried that this might destroy him completely.

Time went on and I got in trouble and went to rehab. After rehab my kids and I went to live with my dad in Chandler’s Landing in Rockwall. This was a very hard time. I stayed clean for awhile but my dad was drinking a lot and his world was falling apart because his business was failing and they were about to foreclose on his home. I wasn’t aware of his financial difficulties so we all just lived there pretending everything was fine.

He loved to watch MASH and he would watch it every day. There was some channel where it came on for hours and he wanted me to watch it with him. So we would sit at his kitchen table and watch MASH (now I like MASH fine but I did not want to watch it ALL the time). No talking was allowed, we just watched the TV and I was expected to sit there with him and did so even though I was 41 years old. I wanted to please my daddy and wanted him to be proud of me so I was the dutiful daughter.

One day as we watched what seemed to be the 50^th episode of MASH Alexis came running in with a bag of what appeared to be sand and shells. She said “Granddaddy, can I have this bag of sand?” He looked up and nodded yes, already pretty drunk from his vodka.  I didn’t think much about it but was slightly curious why there was a bag of sand and shells stuffed into a beautiful gold box but I just dismissed the thought and continued to stare at the TV in the required silence trying not to doze off. Alexis sat down at the table and proceeded to tear open the plastic bag when I heard a guttural scream from my father. He yelled “NOOOOOOO that's Cocoa!!!!!!! “ I jolted up as Alexis dropped the bag only spilling a little bit of what I now knew was Cocoa’s remains and bones. My father started crying and I assured him Cocoa’s remains were intact as I tried to clean off the table where the dust had spilt without him seeing me. I quickly told Alexis to go play because I feared what my dad might do and got some tape to reseal the bag and put Cocoa back in the golden urn.  This whole situation was a little creepy so I wanted to put this cremated dog away and proceeded to put her high on a shelf so no one else would mistake poor Cocoa for sand and sea shells from the beach  but my dad said  “NO” as he put his hands up distraughtly. 

He said there was a special place for Cocoa and led me to a closet that I wasn’t aware of. When we opened the closet door there was a shrine for this dog. There was like a 14 X 16 professionally taken portrait of Cocoa  complete with a red bow in her hair, I even think she was smiling. The framed portrait was sitting behind Cocoa’s old bed and we set the urn upon the bed where Coco once slept.  A tear rolled down my father’s cheek as he returned to the kitchen to watch MASH and told me I needed to watch my children more closely.

I almost went off on him but the irony of it all was just too funny. I would have been watching my children if I didn’t have to sit and watch MASH in silence for hours each day but he would have never of understood that so I didn’t even try to plead my case. Then as I pictured my dad and Cocoa at the studio having photographs taken I couldn’t stop laughing even through the sadness that there were no photos of me. There were senior photos of Kathey and David but not of me. When I got married the wedding was in Dallas but I lived in Amarillo so when I returned home my dad was supposed to pick up my wedding photos but he never did so I don’t even have wedding pictures but there were professionally taken photos of his dog and he even put them in a frame !!!!  Those thoughts raced through my mind as I thought of how he expressed his love for Cocoa compared to me.

But it was really okay because he just couldn’t ever get past the pain of losing his son to suicide. I am so glad he had Cocoa because he needed her and her love so I don’t resent it at all. Cocoa couldn’t let him down and he couldn’t let Cocoa down. Through Cocoa I got a glimpse of my dad’s tender heart that I wouldn’t have seen otherwise. I had forgotten about Cocoa’s shrine :) until I talked with my friend last night. It is a memory that makes me smile :) 

I lost 94 pounds!

As I said earlier this is very very hard for me and I think that I have figured out why I have this fear of rejection, ridicule, and judgment. It is because I have received rejection, ridicule, and judgment where my weight is concerned and it came from the person I wanted to please the most, my father. My whole life I tried to make him proud of me and maybe I did but he just could not express it. Most of his comments to me were critical and when I got overweight he could really be mean to me. His demeaning words hurt my feelings so badly, as I think of those moments I always begin to cry. I think that is where the root of this fear comes from and it is good to know the root causes.

Although there is still pain associated with these memories my dad and I had complete restoration in our fragile relationship and I had completely forgiven him for how he treated me before he died but I guess there is still some healing to take place.  And as I have said before we must reveal it for God to heal it and today I am going to reveal it and pray for God’s healing in this area.

When I first got out of prison I was on a leg monitor and couldn’t even walk outside of my trailer unless I had a parole appointment, a job interview, or I was going to an AA/NA meeting. There weren’t any job interviews and my transportation was very limited so I just couldn’t plan anything.  So this meant I spent a lot of time in the trailer and got no exercise at all but my weight stayed somewhat stable I guess. We had a scale but I didn’t get on it, I just didn’t like scales so I really didn’t know how much I weighed.

After I got off the leg monitor and was able to leave the trailer I got a job as a drive thru cashier at Dickey’s. We were very busy and I was running around all the time and I lost some weight. As I said I never weighed but after working a couple of weeks I had to go buy new jeans because the ones I had were too big and I remember being thrilled to get a pair of size 10’s.  I worked at Dickey’s from 2004-2006 and then I got my job at Highland Homes.

Highland was a lot less physical, I mean a lot less. After I had been working at Highland for a month or two my boss came to me one day and said the Lord had laid it on his heart that it was time for me to quit smoking and he asked me if I thought I was ready. I believed Trent had heard from the Lord on this subject so I said I was willing to try and he laid hands on me and prayed.

I have not picked up a cigarette since that day. I am amazed at how the Lord delivered me from that addiction IMMEDIATELY!! I believe the Lord can do that because I believe God can do anything but usually it seems HE takes us through a process so we will learn or others will learn from us but he delivered me from my addiction to smoking cigarettes  instantly.  I am still in awe of that : )

The only problem was after I quit smoking I really began to gain weight and although I had overcome a lot of things there were so much happening in my life that was causing me stress. Throughout this difficult time I never used alcohol, drugs, or smoked but I ate to relieve the stress and for comfort I guess. I got to the point where I didn’t buy size clothes anymore I just bought Large or X Large so then I really didn’t know what size I was. And although there was A LOT of stress in my home life (which I will go into later ) I was pursuing God with all my heart, knowing that a relationship with him was the answer for the changes in my life that I so desperately needed and wanted.

I wanted to have love, hope, and forgiveness, peace with my past and true joy so I keep chasing after God knowing he was the answer to what had been missing.

After I quit smoking and I really began to gain.

Spiritually I was growing by leaps and bounds but the problem was I was growing by leaps and bounds physically too : ))) My weight was beginning to have an effect on my life and limit my activity because my knees hurt so badly. One of the most memorable moments was when I went to Firewheel Mall and I had to park really far from the store I was going to.

The only open parking place was by the Sonic and I was going to the New York and Company store (they had the best stretch knit black pants).  I had to stop and sit down on a bench because my legs hurt so badly. I remember just sitting there crying my eyes out because I couldn’t even walk around a mall. My heart was broken and I felt such shame. Not long after that I had a dream that my blood pressure was sky high. This scared me because I thought I could have a stroke or heart attack, I was terrified.

Thankfully this happened at a time where I had some extra money because I don’t have insurance so I went straight to the doctor and stepped on a scale for the first time in years. I was shocked by my weight, I could not believe it but surprisingly other than being obese I was in great health. They did a complete physical and blood work and it all came back great. My cholesterol was at the high end of the normal range but that was it. I think even the doctor was a little amazed. I had really thought my health might be hopeless so this encouraged me.

 I normally would not anyone take a picture because I was so ashamed.

After that I noticed a friend from church had lost a lot of weight and I asked her about it and she told me she did a program called Slim4life so I went to check it out. It was expensive but I was determined and ready. I started the program on the Monday after Thanksgiving 2009.

When I stepped on the scale I weighed 216 and my goal weight was 125. I reached my goal through discipline and eating healthy by August of 2010 and I have kept it off. I fluctuate between 120 and 125. I weigh everyday and I know some people say not to do that but it holds me accountable and that is important for my type of personality which is very “ADDICTIVE”.  If I go over 125 I go back on the program because even though it might be only a few pounds the little things can add up. Again I go back to one of my favorite scriptures. SONG OF SOLOMON 2:15 "Take us the foxes, the little foxes that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes."  

Those little foxes (drugs, weight, shame, etc) have wreaked havoc in my life.  This morning when I stepped on the scale I weighed 123 which makes my total weight loss 94 lbs. The amazing thing is it has changed my appetite. I crave salmon, asparagus, broccoli, tuna, chicken and steak. I think I am the healthiest I have ever been in my life. Here are my photos. I included one from today so you could see. It made me feel better. God has certainly changed me from the inside out and I feel so victorious over my demons because of HIS strength within me.